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The Big Home Visit

The first thing that I think comes to everyone's minds when you talk about the process to adopt is "The Big Home Visit". Well, we had ours just a couple days ago, and lived to tell the story! Not only did we live, but it was one of the easiest things I've ever done.. well, pretty much.

Truthfully, we weren't nervous about the actual visit. We have met with our caseworker in person two other times. Her visit to our home was going to conclude a big long questionnaire that she had, she needed to verify our birth certificates and insurance card, and then she would tour the home so she could write about the layout of the house.

The hardest part about this visit was cleaning the house before she came! With the hustle and bustle of Easter, it left us very little time to clean, but it did get done. Now it is quite nice to have a clean house!!! It hasn't been this clean...well... in longer than I should really admit! So we do all of this cleaning, and then wouldn't you know, she literally spent a whole of 4 minutes looking at our house! She didn't even walk in a couple rooms, but just briefly glanced.

The visit proved to even be humorous. She wanted to do a brief interview with Caleb, that went a little something like this...

J (caseworker's first initial): Do you know what adopt means?
C: No (me thinking - Ugh! We've talked about this multiple times!)
J: *short explanation about adoption
C: Oh yeah, that's right. This is my angry birds game that I got for Easter!
J: Wow. That looks really neat. Do you know what a brother or sister is?
C: Yep, I would be the oldest. Do you want to see me run really fast!?
J: Wow that was fast.
C: You should write down how fast I was.
J: Are you excited to have a brother or sister?
C: Yep. Do you want to see my room now?

Oh goodness, the memory of those 5 minutes still make me laugh out loud. Oh how I love my son!

Does this mean we are all done? Oh how I wish we were! We still have some paperwork to send her and a couple more small interviews over the phone, but having the home visit means we are getting much closer to the homestudy being finished - woohoo!!!

Now, to sum this up, the moral of the story is - if you are at all ever considering adoption, do NOT worry about the homestudy visit - it is EASY PEASY!!!


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